Well, hi there. Welcome to my family. We have ADD. Actually, just my husband has it but like any other chronic illness, or mental disorder, or dysfunction, or behavioral problem, or disability (all of which ADD has been called), the entire family has it. So the entire family has to deal with it.
I have read book after book after article after blog post about living with ADD. The advice ranges from "Embrace it! You are lucky to have such a creative husband!" to "Divorce him. He will never change. He can't".
Both are equally discouraging. It's impossible to embrace it. It's freakin' ADD - it's like embracing an amoeba. And the divorce thing? Of course I have thought of it, but I don't want to. I love my husband very deeply. I don't want to divorce him. He is who he is, and together we can deal with it. With God's help; which is frustratingly sparse when it comes to this matter.
So "My Family Has ADD" is born. It's for wives whose husbands have ADD, and have faith in God. Because no one else gets it.
I love that you are stepping out in faith and doing this. Can't wait to hear more.
ReplyDeleteYou made me cry, Jen. Praying for you, and even though my husband doesn't, I really DO think I get it to an extent. And if not, I am certain you will help me 'get it.'
ReplyDeleteHi Jen,
ReplyDeleteI know you'll help SO many people with your willingness to be open and honest. What a gift your husband is giving to others by letting you put it out there.
I also know that when you have something going on in your life a zillion people come out of the woodwork to suggest you try this or that or whatever other advice they annoy you with...so PLEASE don't hate me for just throwing something out there for you to think about...
Has your husband ever tried the GAPS Diet? I know kids have been healed of ADD with the GAPS Diet, and I don't know if that would be any different for adults, but it's something to look into anyway. There's info on my site if you want it but I'm not going to leave a link because it feels spammy.
Praying for you...
Kel
Hi Jen,
ReplyDeleteThis blog could not have come at a better time for me and my husband. The symptoms of ADD are things that we've struggled with in our marriage for years (5, to be precise), but we now have two kids under three and things seem to be getting worse. We've just come to realization that this probably is ADD in some form, and have an appointment set up to get some more information and hopefully some help for next week. My husband is the one with ADD and I'm struggling with a lot of negative emotions about his diagnosis and getting help, and just the way our lives are and probably will be forever.
Thanks for starting this.